Shirin McArthur

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The Only Constant is Change


Henry and I have moved a lot over the years. In fact, in the 21 years we’ve been married, we’ve lived in nine different locations, ranging from a one-bedroom seminary apartment to a spacious adobe house. We’ve discovered that there are both advantages to moving often (you regularly get to purge your belongings) and disadvantages (it seems like every time I get a garden established, we move!). We don’t always plan to move so frequently, but it just seems to be the pattern of our life together.

When we moved into our current house, we both really felt that we were here to stay. In fact, Henry joked about only leaving here “in a box.” We love the rural setting, the birds and bees and deer and rabbits—even when they mess with the garden. We love hearing the sound of coyotes and owls at dusk, and the number of stars we can see on a clear night. DSC_5361We’ve also invested a lot of time, energy, money and love into this home, including this beautiful rock garden which is our back yard.

But I’ve learned to “never say never.” As someone first said decades ago, life is what happens while you’re making other plans. Due to Henry’s health issues, we’re moving again. Limitations in his lung capacity mean that it’s time to live at a lower elevation. After some research and discussion, as well as prayer, we’re looking at somewhere in the Tucson area—just three hours from here—as our target destination. It takes us from 6000 feet to just over 2000, and he could feel the difference when we recently traveled there to purchase his first set of hearing aids. Sea level might be even better, but humidity, cold, and allergens are other factors that affect lungs and so Tucson seems to be a good compromise.

Naturally I’ve experienced a range of emotions over the weeks as this change has slowly become a reality in our lives. I’ve also realized that shifts in my life—whether they be related to home, work, or vocation—seem to occur in three-year cycles. I became a freelancer and we moved to this home in 2012, so it seems I’m due for another round of change.

It’s also important to notice that so many of those shifts have occurred as we followed the invitation of the Spirit. In 2003, Henry took an early retirement buyout from his job and went to seminary. In 2006, we moved to New Mexico in his pursuit of ordination. Our move in 2012 was also saying “yes” to an invitation to ministry here. Through each move, we’ve trusted that God is inviting us along a path that we don’t always see clearly. Looking back, I can see how richly we’ve been blessed, every step of the way. It’s not always been easy, but it’s been blessed.

And so, when I can rest in that trust, I am at peace with this move—even as the idea of putting all our belongings in boxes yet again feels quite daunting. I can even look forward to the possibilities ahead of us: new friends, new opportunities, a new house to make “home”—for however long we are blessed to live there.

(For those who are wondering about the practicalities, we have a mid-December close date on our house here—which went under contract before it even got on the market—and we are now looking for a house in Tucson.)

When have you trusted the Spirit’s invitation and stepped forward in faith? What happened? Are there any such invitations—large or small—being offered to you right now?


Author: Shirin McArthur

I'm a spiritual guide, retreat leader, writer and editor.

5 thoughts on “The Only Constant is Change

  1. Rats!!! That’s my initial response. (even after hearing it a week ago). However, God speed wishes to you and Henry come along with that. I’ll miss you A LOT. Hugs, Diane


  2. Dear Shirin, I believe I knew this was possible, but had not heard how swiftly it is happening. I trust this is very wise for you and am holding you in the Light of God’s Love for well being in the midst of yet another transition.

    As you know, my big stepping out moments were entering the ordination process, and then choosing to leave that process six years later. What happened was that I freely stepped into an Abyss and God was in the Abyss and I did not crash down, but instead I floated in that space for two years and discovered a call to spiritual guidance. Which, of course, is why I took the Shalem program and we met. There have been so many blessings in this trajectory, and I know that so often the road bends so that what’s coming is not seen. But you have well-honed, experiential trust, and I am praying that God will have something profoundly worthwhile for you in this new space.

    Much Love and Prayers Ensuing! June

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  3. Thank you, June. Sorry I haven’t managed to connect with you and yes, it happened very swiftly! Experiential trust is a great phrase to use as I contemplate this change! I appreciate your prayers and do indeed trust that new opportunities for ministry will unfold….



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